‘Be who you were meant to be and you will set the world on fire’ – St Catherine of Siena
So this is my desire, to radiate light & love. I suppose it’s a sort of mantra, or the beginnings of a personal mission statement. I’ve been thinking about the word ‘mission’. What is my mission? Do you have a mission in life? Perhaps you are searching for your mission in life? I have a sense of being used as an instrument to help others, to be blessed with an abundance from which I can be a blessing to everyone around me.
I think of all the mothers who have given so much of themselves, in love, to the nurturing and development of another human being. I am not a mother (though hopefully… one day), but what a gift, what a blessing, to be able to give in such a way that will forever have a positive impact upon a person’s life. To enable a person to live life to the full, really live it!
So how does the saying go? You can give a man a fish and he will feed his family for a day. You can teach a man how to fish, and he will feed his family and others for a lifetime.
Legacy building. That’s what I’m excited about. I’m on the right track, I can feel it! I suppose the finer details will become clearer in time, but I keep moving forward on this mission. It’s interesting, how I seem to be meeting people who share my idea of mission and are joining me along this journey.
‘No darling. No coffee. No wine. Just deal with it. Come on it’s time for yoga’
So, my husband and I decided to take the 9 day challenge, and complete a cleansing and detox programme called C9. I think I have fallen into the habit of drinking too much coffee, and I do enjoy red wine, so I thought it would be refreshing for my body (and mind) to do without these rather delicious stimulants for a while. My husband is a good sport, and very supportive, so he decided to join me. The foundation of the programme is based upon one of nature’s wonderful secrets, captured in nearly 100% purity by the grower/manufacturer’s patented process, namely Aloe Vera Drinking Gel. We both drink this everyday in any event, as a way of helping our bodies to stay healthy, and we have both received health benefits as a result. So perhaps I was also curious to see how I would feel after the 9 days.
Well I must admit that I missed my morning coffee terribly for the first 2 days, and I’m ashamed to say that I was a bit grumpy to begin with (I didn’t see that coming!) By comparison, my husband (whom I shall now refer to as the Artist) was very cool and calm, raising his hand in front of my face very gently and saying, ‘No darling. No coffee. No wine. Just deal with it. Come on it’s time for yoga’.
Now we have completed the challenge – hooray! The slightly chunky bit around my torso and belly that I had accepted as a natural part of my bodyshape has slimmed down and I now have more of a waist, which gave me the boldness to step out of my comfort zone and buy some incredibly skinny, skinny jeans! I am now strutting around my kitchen thinking I’m Olivia Newton-John in ‘Grease’ singing the words to ‘You better shape up….’. I feel differently about my morning coffee, and now I have a morning hot water and lemon instead, and I’m eating more fruits and vegetables each day than I have in a long time. We are both enjoying more energy and more yoga together. And what did the Artist say in his best Aussie accent ‘Yep. It cleared out all the crap in my system and I’ve got more energy’. Enough said.
I think everyone should try this at least once and I have no hesitation in recommending this to friends and family.
So the last few days have been really exciting and somewhat challenging… I suppose I have been challenging my mind and my body. I’m learning all about the importance of having a strong and positive mindset, for achieving my goals in life and of course in business.
‘By taking responsibility for the pictures in your mind, the things you say to yourself, the tone of voice you say it in, and the feelings you are creating internally, along with the way you use your body, mean that you can now begin to choose how you want to feel, think, act and be….and you choose how others see you in the process…’ Dave O’Connor.
I went along to an amazing day at the Millenium Gloucester Hotel in London on Saturday, led by Dave O’Connor and other great speakers. It is so liberating and inspiring to discover and to learn to love the real me! The positive and self-encouraging me! The Tessa that no longer limits her abilities by her limiting self-beliefs – ‘I couldn’t possibly do that because I’m not clever enough, or pretty enough, or healthy enough, or brave enough!’ We tell ourselves these things all the time, and end up sabotaging our best laid plans or ideas. Why do we do that? Or is it just me? Working on your mindset is clearly a daily work- in -progress, but I think it will be a labour of love and empowerment! I am so happy and grateful that I was able to share this day, and mindset journey with my husband Terry, who is on the journey with me. It’s exciting because I never envisaged us sharing something like this……..perhaps a sign of things to come?
We have also been challenging our bodies to a 9 day detox and cleansing plan called the C9. We are on day 6 – but I think I’ll tell you more about that next time. Wishing you all a positive day!
Opportunities to help others can come along in all manner of ways. I’ve always said that I want to radiate light & love and add value to the lives of others. But how? Perhaps I have done that in the past with people I have met in need of legal representation or advice? Perhaps I have listened to a friend when she needed a shoulder to cry on? Perhaps I have chosen to smile at a stranger on the street who seems so forlorn and haunted by numerous worldly worries? But how can I truly invest in someone, in their families, make a real difference and build a friendship along the way? Well that is exciting, and that is what I’m striving towards. I want to leave a legacy.
Yesterday, I had an opportunity to speak to a room full of people about my journey, my challenges, living with Sickle Cell Anaemia, and my excitement at the bright future ahead of me. I was touched by the response from the audience, the comments I received afterwards, and the discussions that followed. I see now that where I find myself, and in the opportunities that my business provides, I have a vehicle to do what I desire. To invest in people, to truly make a difference to the lives of others. To leave a legacy.
So I must get to work. Become the best Tessa I can be. Use my strengths and develop new skills. Help others become the best that they can be. And so it begins….
My life has changed so much within the last year. It’s exciting. I decided to make a decision to change my life. For the better, I hope. What is it about the fear of the unknown? It can be crippling! I’ve learnt that a useful acronym for the word ‘fear’ is false, evidence, appearing, real. But what does that really mean? Well for me, it was the fear of leaving a respectable, well trodden career path with a decent income, with well lit lamps ahead of me to guide my path, to take a different path…one that didn’t appear to be clearly signposted, was a bit foggy, but I could see inviting sunlight ahead, and more fulfilment and excitement and adventure. It felt as though this was the path to the real me, the real Tessa. A wise man said to me, “Well you must ask yourself Tessa, in 5 years time, will you look back to this moment and wish that you had been brave enough to try something new?” I replied, “Yes I probably will!”. “Well you must do it then”, he said. And so I did.
And I’m so happy that I did.
So, barrister and civil servant turned Entrepreneur and Business Owner/Developer and Leader, helping and empowering others to do the same and more…… and who knows what else to come!
We have all been given gifts, and we develop skills along the way. I am choosing to use my gifts and skills in a different way now, and I am learning new skills along the way.
Be who you were meant to be and you will set the world on fire – St Catherine of Siena