Author: tessafyffe

My sister-in-law said this to me when we last spoke, ‘Tessa, your vibe attracts your tribe!’ It really is so true! It’s so fascinating how certain people come into your life and bless you with a rich and exciting partnership, and friendship. I really do believe that you meet people for a reason, and not by coincidence.

Today I have had the privilege to accompany and support two inspiring women as they build their businesses. Each at different stages in their lives and business journeys; one single, one married with children, both full of light and love, which of course is part of my mantra and mission statement, ‘Be light & love!’

I am so excited for them, and so excited to be working with them, and the lives we can change by working together on a shared mission. I am humbled by their tenacity and single-minded focus on their goals. Both have a strong desire to help others, as do I, and have a real passion for life despite personal, family and health challenges over the years. I recognise their dancing eyes as I see them myself when I look in the mirror. There is also a deep inner strength that comes from being immersed in and triumphing over suffering, with which I can identify. These women are unmistakably immersed in an attitude of gratitude and see each day as a blessing, yet are eager to learn new skills and develop personally in order to be more effective in all areas of their lives and in turn help others to do the same.

So did I attract them? Or did they attract me? It’s very interesting isn’t it? I am already learning about life from them, and their beauty runs deep. I have no doubt that they will have great success and I will do everything I can to ensure that this happens, and that they enjoy the journey. I am so happy and grateful to have the business that I have.

 

It’s funny how the person I see when I look in the mirror today, seems so different to the person I used to see. I’m not just talking about wearing my hair in a shorter style, or having brighter and more vibrant eyes or the increase in those little freckles on the tops of my cheeks that my grandmother, and subsequently, my mother acquired. No, I mean, the person I see, my true self. My image of me has changed! When did that happen I wonder? Well, it may have something to do with the fact that I now intentionally and actively choose to see myself as the person, leader and entrepreneur that I want to become. That I am becoming. That I am.

I am learning that the self-image you have, has a direct effect on how you communicate yourself to others, consciously or otherwise. Your lifestyle, wealth and material possessions may change, but if the image you have of yourself doesn’t change, then you are creating a major obstacle to achieving the fulfilment and happiness you deserve.

So who do you see when you look in the mirror?

Our minds are truly powerful and amazing and I am in awe of how our human bodies were created. I intend to continue along this path of self-development and self-discovery, to get better acquainted with the power of our minds. In doing so, I can be the best Tessa I can be, and this is all on the path of becoming who I was meant to be. It may be a life-long journey but I am attacking it every step of the way! Life is rather exciting as I step into the person that I choose to be.

What steps are you taking to embrace your true self today?

 

Why is it that once you make a decision to become sealed and proofed against negativity, that so many people choose to have a good old negative rant right in front of you? What makes it so attractive? It’s one thing to share your troubles and difficulties with a friend,   ‘ .. a problem shared is a problem halved…etc’,  but to choose to speak negatively about ourselves, the weather, the television schedule, the neighbours, the state of the nation, the bankers, the supermarkets, the children, the boss, the state of our finances, the adult siblings, the many physical ailments, the harshness of life in general and so on and so on; this is quite another thing entirely. If we knew how damaging this was, would we change our habits? I want to cultivate habits that serve me positively. How does negative talk serve you?

It is draining, it is cyclical and stationary and repetitive. It paints a dreary window of life that is not uplifting to anyone. It also steals your joy. Why would you allow anything or anyone to steal your joy? I guard it with my life! When I hear the negativity rant building 1,2,3 I run away saying ‘No! Please! I don’t want to hear it!

Growing up with a number of health challenges, I have chosen to be positive and to view life through the glass of positivity. Sure, it’s not always easy, but it is a choice and it is far better than being negative.

Now that I am an entrepreneur, I want to work with other people who have a positive outlook. There is a great energy created when positive minds work together with a common goal or purpose. My joy is safe and protected.

So, why not take another look at that negative self-talk.

How does it serve you? How does it make you feel?

Contact Tessa at email@tessafyffe.com to find out more #workfromhome  #networkmarketing

 

 

When was the last time you felt inspired? Perhaps it’s a word or phrase that we use too lightly or frequently that it’s meaning becomes somewhat diluted. According to my slightly worse for wear Collins dictionary, to ‘Inspire’ means ‘.. to exert a stimulating or beneficial effect upon a person etc; animate or invigorate; to arouse with a particular emotion or to a particular action; stir; to prompt or instigate; give rise to..’.  Wow, how beautiful it is to bathe in a river of inspiration…..I often tell my Artist how much I love him, and on the last occasion he said ‘ Thank you honey, that inspires me..’ Do we know when we are inspiring others? What would happen if we consciously and intentionally decided to be inspiring everyday? To cause a beneficial effect and to prompt to a particular positive action? Surely that would feel very good indeed.

Inspiration can be Divine, and it can be very human. Our stories; our struggles; how we deal with our limitations, physical or otherwise; how we give and receive love; our vulnerability; our brokenness; our silent companionship; our triumphs over adversity; our journeys.

I was filled with inspiration at a weekend event, where ordinary men and women who now lead extraordinary lives, shared their struggles and successes in the hope that their stories would have a beneficial effect and prompt many others to take action to change their lives. I am changing my life, by changing my actions and my thinking. I am working with others who wish to do the same. I too wish to be inspired and to inspire others. It’s exciting, and it makes me smile. As I continue to consider my purpose in life, this is clearly one of those important signposts that will guide my way.

What are you afraid of today?

As I embark upon my new journey as a business owner, coach and mentor, I regularly come across many fears brewing up inside of me. Some of these I am aware of, but others are quite new.

What will other people think of me? What if my friends laugh at me? What if I miss the security of a day J-O-B? What if I can’t find the time to do what I need to? What if I am not consistent in my daily actions? What if I get bored with it? What if I fail? What if I lose all confidence? What if I can’t learn all the new skills? What if I let people get to know the real me and they don’t like me? Will I be less interesting to people and therefore lose friends?

So this is what I tell myself: You are a unique and wonderful creation so do not be afraid. What does it matter what people think of you? Your real friends wouldn’t laugh at you. Be open to learning and creating new habits. Surround yourself with like-minded people who will encourage and support you. Be true to your passion and create the time to do what you enjoy. Find your inner you and connect each day in silence and stillness.

The real you is You!

Discover your gifts and share and be a blessing to others. The confidence will follow. Spend time working on your ‘new self’ and develop a new mindset. Be grateful for everyday and by being yourself you will cultivate new and affirming friendships.

 

So you feel the fear, and you do it anyway. Do not be afraid to embrace a new direction in life. Life is too precious and short to be stunted by fear.

So we were on our way home from an evening out, and the temperature had dropped so that it was freezing outside. I was warm in my coat but for some reason my knees were cold. ‘Let’s pretend the sun is shining and we can feel the warmth of the sun on our faces and we have warm knees!’ So we repeated this to ourselves, laughing as we quickly walked home.

How many times do we try to convince ourselves that something is true when it isn’t? This is a trivial example but what about something more significant? ‘I’m okay, I feel great!’, when you’re really exhausted and tired, or ‘This is a great bar and great music’, when you really want to be at home in bed at 9.30pm, or ‘It’s not a bad job, and the pay is decent’, when really you hate your job and feel trapped and unfulfilled, or ‘I’ll be fine, I just need a coffee’, when really you have been neglecting your health and your body is telling you that all is not well.

What masks are you wearing today?

It’s one thing to hide the truth from other people, but to hide it from yourself? Well that’s a dangerous game.

I think I have had a number of masks in my time. Hiding physical pain to avoid pity and drawing attention to myself. Remaining in denial about my lack of a work-life balance which was slowly draining away my joy.

Well it’s time to embrace your real and inner you. It’s time to be thankful for your life. It’s time to be bold in the pursuit of happiness and take steps to change your life for the better. It’s time to silence the negative inner voice that says you can’t or you’re not good enough. Be bold. Be courageous. Be you!

Life is a beautiful gift, a gift of love, laughter, joy and happiness. Life is also a gift of pain, challenges, uncertainty and questions. How we view life depends upon us and how we choose to ‘see’. I was in a town centre yesterday and I heard this amazing music flowing through the air. I turned around to find the source of the melody, so that I could move closer and listen in for awhile. I found a young girl, busking, strumming away on her guitar, sounding like a young female version of Eric Clapton (yes I’m a big Eric fan!). But it wasn’t just her talent and music that struck me. It was the contented joyful and happy look on her face. She sat with her legs crossed, toes tapping to the beat, her beat. She had a woolly hat on over her long dark hair and she looked very young and carefree. Her groovy vibe was so attractive and contagious and I found it hard to pull myself away! I left her feeling happy and light and joyful and admiring her entrepreneurial spirit.

Later on that day, I was on a train on my way to a business meeting, and the train was stationary for a long time as the emergency services had been called to an incident involving a person in front of a train. Though nothing further was said, as the train reversed back towards our starting point, it didn’t sound good at all. My heart went out to the person’s family.

Two perspectives, but the same life. How do you choose to view the gift of you? I choose to see the love and the pain, the laughter and the challenges, the joy and the uncertainty, the happiness and the questions, all through the eyes of positivity, gratitude and mission. With a sense of urgency, not to waste a single moment, but to bring light & love and be a blessing to others.

 

I’m not sure why, but when I think about taking a trip on a plane, I can hear the enchanting voice of Randy Crawford singing ‘One day I’ll fly away…leave that love to yesterday….what more can your love do for me? when will love be through with me…..!’. My sincere apologies Randy, as I’ve probably got half of the words wrong! Well…it was a beautiful song!

Anyway, shortly afterwards I am filled with excitement at the thought of a holiday adventure! So it’s official, we are going to Australia, to Perth and Melbourne, to visit our family. What is it about travel that is so exciting? Is it the thought of a refreshing change to your usual schedule? Or the idea of an adventure and making new acquaintances? Or is it a weird combination of the fear of, and the thrill of the unknown?

 

 

 

 

 

Travel can be educational; enlightening; an invitation to open oneself to infinite possibilities; a chance to refresh and be refreshed; a chance to develop a more confident and positive mindset and rest in a strong attitude of gratitude. Travel can be fun and carefree with a chance to connect with your inner child, and breathe a bit deeper, and perhaps see yourself with fresh eyes. Of course one of the best things about travel is coming back home. So what do you love the most about travel?

The company I work with provides rather impressive travel incentives – last year Singapore, this year South Africa, all expenses paid flights, 5 star accommodation AND spending money, for you and a guest. Not bad at all! I do believe I have found an ideal way to travel the world, and I intend on doing just that.

Take it away Randy…..’One day I’ll fly away…………’

To find out more contact Tessa at email@tessafyffe.com

‘Be who you were meant to be and you will set the world on fire’ – St Catherine of Siena

So this is my desire, to radiate light & love. I suppose it’s a sort of mantra, or the beginnings of a personal mission statement. I’ve been thinking about the word ‘mission’. What is my mission? Do you have a mission in life? Perhaps you are searching for your mission in life? I have a sense of being used as an instrument to help others, to be blessed with an abundance from which I can be a blessing to everyone around me.

I think of all the mothers who have given so much of themselves, in love, to the nurturing and development of another human being. I am not a mother (though hopefully… one day), but what a gift, what a blessing, to be able to give in such a way that will forever have a positive impact upon a person’s life. To enable a person to live life to the full, really live it!

So how does the saying go? You can give a man a fish and he will feed his family for a day. You can teach a man how to fish, and he will feed his family and others for a lifetime.

Legacy building. That’s what I’m excited about. I’m on the right track, I can feel it! I suppose the finer details will become clearer in time, but I keep moving forward on this mission. It’s interesting, how I seem to be meeting people who share my idea of mission and are joining me along this journey.

Be light & love Radiant Ambassador!

 

So, my husband and I decided to take the 9 day challenge, and complete a cleansing and detox programme called C9. I think I have fallen into the habit of drinking too much coffee, and I do enjoy red wine, so I thought it would be refreshing for my body (and mind) to do without these rather delicious stimulants for a while. My husband is a good sport, and very supportive, so he decided to join me. The foundation of the programme is based upon one of nature’s wonderful secrets, captured in nearly 100% purity by the grower/manufacturer’s patented process, namely Aloe Vera Drinking Gel. We both drink this everyday in any event, as a way of helping our bodies to stay healthy, and we have both received health benefits as a result. So perhaps I was also curious to see how I would feel after the 9 days.

Well I must admit that I missed my morning coffee terribly for the first 2 days, and I’m ashamed to say that I was a bit grumpy to begin with (I didn’t see that coming!) By comparison, my husband (whom I shall now refer to as the Artist) was very cool and calm, raising his hand in front of my face very gently and saying, ‘No darling. No coffee. No wine. Just deal with it. Come on it’s time for yoga’.

Now we have completed the challenge – hooray! The slightly chunky bit around my torso and belly that I had accepted as a natural part of my bodyshape has slimmed down and I now have more of a waist, which gave me the boldness to step out of my comfort zone and buy some incredibly skinny, skinny jeans! I am now strutting around my kitchen thinking I’m Olivia Newton-John in ‘Grease’ singing the words to ‘You better shape up….’. I feel differently about my morning coffee, and now I have a morning hot water and lemon instead, and I’m eating more fruits and vegetables each day than I have in a long time. We are both enjoying more energy and more yoga together. And what did the Artist say in his best Aussie accent ‘Yep. It cleared out all the crap in my system and I’ve got more energy’. Enough said.

I think everyone should try this at least once and I have no hesitation in recommending this to friends and family.

You can buy the C9 from me at this link Tessa’s Shop and click ‘Enter Shop’. Also on Facebook Radiance-Gift of Health for more info.

Wishing you a positive and energised day!