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Once upon a time, when I still worked in the Courts, when Sunday night came along, I would think about what I was going to wear. My smart dark skirt suit; my white starched shirt; my cufflinks; my smart court shoes from Hobbs….! As I reflect on that, and on this Sunday, my thoughts turn to what it really means to be dressed for action! Sure, my outerwear is important. A statement of my personality and personal style. Perhaps a hidden message urging people to ‘take me seriously’ or a subliminal protest against the formality of the corporate world by wearing skinny jeans and heels to business meetings! I suppose there is any number of images that we try to portray with the clothes we wear. You tell me yours.

But I want to be truly dressed for action! I want to be wrapped in light and love and ready to take on the world as my authentic self. Me. What is the easiest and most natural way for me to do that? With my smile. I want to show up each day with the best smile I can muster. Because that’s just me.

So what about the days when you just don’t feel like smiling? Well those days will always be there in abundance! Perhaps on those days, if I stop looking inward, and start looking outward; if I choose to move my focus from feeling sorry for myself to, ‘ how can I be a blessing to someone today? ‘how can I serve someone today?’ ‘how can I shine a light on someone today?’, then maybe, just maybe, I will start to improve my outlook that day, and feel much better before the end of that day. All simply by radiating my little light and my little love, with my smile. So who will see your smile today?

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How do you measure your progress in life? How do you know if you are getting better and better each day? How can you tell if you are getting closer to achieving your goals and dreams? Perhaps you identify a role model, or someone who has achieved what you want to achieve, and compare yourself to that person. Well, its great to study the behaviour and habits of successful people and role models, but surely great care is needed in how we choose to apply that information to our lives. A direct comparison, may leave us a little worse for wear, if it leaves us feeling inadequate with the words ‘must try harder’ emblazoned across our foreheads! We are, after all, all very different in our make up, constitution and personality. Perhaps a more effective and  nurturing measure would be to compare our present selves to our past selves.

So if I look at Tessa in September 2014 say? What would I see? Where was I in my journey?

Well I had just taken one of the biggest, seemingly uncharacteristic leaps in my life, by choosing to step away from my career, to find more fulfilment and choice, and to attempt to reacquaint myself with me. I was very excited but could not see the path ahead. All I knew was that if I didn’t move in this new direction, the light within me would slowly fade, and 5 years down the line, I would regret not having the courage to change my life.

I look at Tessa now, and so much newness in my life. All the windows and doors have been flung wide open and waves and waves of new people, places, adventures, travels and changes have come flooding in! Some change has been rather uncomfortable and challenging, and some change has felt like more of a homecoming. I am on a path of self-development and I wouldn’t change it for the world!

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There is a real beauty and strength in friendship.

Choosing to open up your life, your heart, sharing your fears and your dreams with those people who have come into your life for whatever reason, and with whom you have a connection; a special bond.  Do you believe that you have something amazing to offer people? Well your friends can see that you do, even if you cannot.

As a woman, I am starting to think more and more about my relationships with the other women I have the privilege to call my friends. I want to celebrate my womanhood in all its beauty and awkwardness, lumps and bumps, and glorious technicolour!

I recently spent some time with my mother-in-law in Melbourne, Australia. Every Wednesday she has a group of friends visit, and these ladies make up the Sewing Club. They come together, around the kitchen table, sewing, stitching, cutting patterns in fabric, drinking tea, eating sandwiches and cakes, chatting (a lot) and generally setting the world to rights! I gate-crashed for a cup of tea and a chat, and I asked how long they had been meeting. Can you believe that they have been meeting every week for about 20 years?

I was attracted to the  beauty and strength in their friendship and special bond. Fantastic! I thought ‘ wow! I want this! For my life, and the lives of my friends!’ Now my sewing and knitting skills are fairly basic, but it’s not really about that is it? It’s about the coming together, the togetherness and the sharing. I would want it to be about empowering each other; women empowering women; celebrating the ups and downs of life together; growing together. I think this may be my new mission, to deepen my positive relationships with the women around me, with a view to empowering and encouraging each other to be our best. What do you think about that?

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How valuable is your time?

We would all agree that time is a precious commodity, right? We often get annoyed when other people ‘waste’ our time and can feel like we have been taken for granted. Or perhaps we feel that we are perceived to be of lesser importance, when someone is late for an appointment or appears to be casual with their time, but only when the appointment is with you! Yet how do we value our own time? Are we more generous with our time with those whom we like more than others? What message are we giving to others about the significance of our time?

Valuing our time is linked to valuing our self-worth. So what do you think of yourself? Do you respect yourself and your ability to add value to the lives of others? Do you have a strong unshakeable belief about yourself? Perhaps you are full of doubt, and need to work on yourself? I have learnt that my time is really precious. I actively choose to spend it well and efficiently. I actively choose to spend more time with like-minded people and to prioritise my daily business building activities. It is not always easy to stick to, but I practise, practise, practise. Yes, I have also noticed a difference in response in the language used by some people, ‘…I know you are busy, but I just wanted to speak to you about ….’, ‘..could you spare me 10 minutes after we finish today !’, or ‘…thank you for the time you have given me’. Create an awareness about who you are, and the value of your time. Be smart and work smart and value yourself. Enjoy the change in your language and awareness and be intentional with your time.

 

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Why do some people pretend to be friendly and supportive, when really they are not? Why is it that some people want to appear to be all things to all people, but are really not at all genuine and perhaps a little bit jealous of you? Why would some people rather choke, than give you a kind word or ask about your news? Even when it’s the most obvious ‘next’ question when exchanging pleasantries? How infuriating! But also, how funny! My grandmother, and subsequently my mother, would say, ‘Beware of the green snake in the green grass!’. It’s quite telling, isn’t it, when such people go out of their way NOT to be kind, or polite, or, well, simply pleasant. It takes more of an effort to be difficult and confrontational, than it does to be kind and conversational. Don’t you think?

So how do you react when such people get under your skin, or in your face?

Ha! I like to give them the biggest, beaming smile that I can muster in that moment. I smile like someone who has just won the lottery! I smile like a chocolate-lover who has just discovered a hidden bar of chocolate at the back of the fridge behind the lettuce! I smile like I am the newly crowned Miss World, declaring that my reign will be dedicated to embracing world peace! Well, I have a bit of fun with it I suppose, whilst I get it out of my system.

The trick is not to let any of these encounters disturb your inner peace. Know that your happiness and joy exists independently of such people. You continue to radiate light and love. Your success is not dependent upon such people. Your beauty and unique gifts are awaited by many people ahead along your path – many of whom you are yet to meet! Let us continue to embrace our passions, as they will lead us to our true purpose. Be brave. Be courageous. Be You!

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So what is your definition of family?

I think of my mum and brothers, sister-in-law, nephews and niece. I think of my mother-in-law, and brothers and sisters-in-law, and their children. I think of my parents’ extended family, some of whom I may never meet. But what about friendships? Would you refer to your friends as family? I suppose it depends upon the quality and purpose of your friendships, or the intensity of your friendships? Perhaps it may have something to do with the quantity of your friends? If you have 500 friends, are they all family?

I seem to be moving into unchartered territory, by forming business partnerships with people, who are fast becoming caring and nurturing friends. Perhaps I had no expectations of what this business would give me when I started out, but as I reflect on recent events and encounters and sharings, I can see that this is really very significant. We are all on a journey together. A journey of love, excitement, laughter, anxiety, disappointment, fear, success, challenge, fun and adventure. A journey of personal development and growth. A journey of discovery. For me, a journey of self-discovery and embracing the unknown. A journey of strength and endurance.

What I’m discovering is that this is such a healthy environment. You are propelled into becoming your best self, developing business skills yes, but also life skills. The ‘big belly laughs’ as my grandmother used to say, are never far behind, and let’s face it, who can put a price on laughter?

So when I think about my family, as described at the start, I will also include the amazing group of business partners with whom I find myself on this journey of life.

Right now, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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What sort of leader are you?

Leadership comes in many shapes and sizes and it may be that different people respond better to different leadership styles. You may be a leader in your family as parent or elder sibling, or a leader in your community, social group or church. You may be a leader at work or at social gatherings. Wherever you find yourself in leadership, are you a giver? Do you give of yourself, your time, your very essence, in order to help others?

The servant leader, despite it’s title, is a strong and effective model of leadership. This is the type of leader I choose to be in my network marketing business. This is what is so attractive about it – you are helping people become their best, and by focusing on helping others, your rewards come to you.

“It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership.” – Nelson Mandela

Empowering others to develop into the best version of themselves is a beautiful and privileged position in which to find yourself. This is the path I have chosen to take, and I am enjoying working with amazing individuals now, and I look forward to working with those that I am yet to meet, who are on the path up ahead.

Are you one of those people on the path ahead?

 

So what do we understand by abundance? As a child growing up I associated abundance with wealth and money, though somewhere along the line I formed the impression that there was probably an element of greed involved. Why did I think that? Where did that notion come from?

I believe that I also formed the impression that having or desiring abundance in the form of wealth and money was not a very Christian thing to do. Again, I ask myself why, and wonder where this belief came from. Am I alone here?

Now, if I desire abundance in all areas of my life, what does that say about me? Well, what does it matter? Surely I should aspire to abundance as abundance is my birth-right. Surely I should aspire to abundance in order to fulfil my divine purpose in life. Surely I should aspire to such overflowing abundance, that I may be a blessing to everyone around me. Surely I should aspire to abundance so that I may be a blessing to the generations that follow me. Surely I should aspire to such overflowing abundance that I might change the world, one encounter at a time.

So what would happen if we all aspired to step into overflowing abundance, and truly believed this and practised it everyday?

‘Abundance is not something we acquire, it is something we tune into’ – Wayne Dyer.

I am tuning in to my overflowing abundance.

Will you?

 

 

So do you keep a journal?

‘What is the point of that?’ some may ask. Well, I keep a journal, and when I reflect over my habits over the last two decades, I can see that I’ve always kept some sort of journal, but for different reasons. In my 30s I wrote about my spiritual journey and searching for…. well, meaning, I suppose. I wrote about my feelings and famous quotes or psalms that made me feel good, or that I could identify with. In my 20s, I wrote mostly in the style of a diary, talking about friendships and love, and heartache over a university boyfriend, the celebration and triumph of being an independent woman with a career, and the death of my father. Now I choose to write daily affirmations, and business ideas, and exciting goals, and the thoughts that pop into my head after silence and meditation in the morning. I have learnt to write a list of five to seven daily high leveraged actions, and a plan of activities for the week. There is still room for improvement, but that is part of the fun.

I suppose now it is more of a holistic style of writing; frantic in a way as I am learning so much and spending time in personal development, skill set and mindset training via audio online programmes, or CDs or books and conferences and training days, so I’m jotting down any number of lists, notes, actions or congratulations to myself for achieving a goal. However, It’s the ideas with small quiet voices, that when captured and written down, can develop a whole energy of its own, and take me off on a journey of discovery, excitement and action, that perhaps would not have caught my attention fully, had I not written them down and explored them in my journal.

So will you start to keep a journal?