Category: Entrepreneur

In True Bridget Jones’ Style

Wow ☺️am feeling accomplished in true Bridget Jones fashion! Have managed to apply my makeup on a packed commuter train whilst standing for entire 30 min journey, with unusually full backpack and handbag, freestyling to keep my balance without holding on to pole in rather unconventional wide-legged stance, like some extra-cool teenage boy on his skateboard along the Southbank. Nice added bonus of all knowing slow-motion headnods set to silent hip-hop beats received from a few other women on the train, almost like some secret sisterly sign-language, to say ‘you got this girl!’ or ‘nice work- looking good’, to which I gave a brave attempt at a similarly cool looking nod back in their direction, with an alien side grin smile and wink that could only have come from a cheesy 80s toothpaste commercial – where did that come from? Well am feeling accomplished in true Bridget Jones’ fashion- and am enjoying a good belly laugh as I replay all of this in my head, complete with groovy soundtrack and slow motion headnods. How entertaining 😂 Surely I’m not the only woman with a ‘make up on the train’ story?

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Do You Believe In You?

You are unique. You have a beautiful power within in you. So why don’t you believe in yourself?

Perhaps there are times when you just don’t feel strong enough, or pretty enough, or slim enough or clever enough…..and this ‘feeling’ stops you from making any progress along the path to where you would like your life to be. I know, really I do.  Well, borrow my belief in you for a moment. You are a remarkable human being with a capacity to love the whole world if you want to. Underneath that worn out slightly battered exterior, battered by the daily challenges of life, you are light and joy and full of kindness. You have an ability to connect with other human beings in a way that no one else can copy – your smile, your laugh, your ways of being you. As you start to appreciate yourself again in the little things you do each day, be grateful for your life. Let your gratitude be like a glass of sparkling water bubbling up in bursts and spurts and bubbling over and out of the glass onto the table! Be overflowing in gratitude for your life, and you will start to ‘grow’ your belief in yourself once again.

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You see as you develop and grow your belief in yourself, you start to build your armour against fear. Fear is like the cowardly thief in the night that swoops in and steals your dreams, your hopes, your plans and your goals. Last week I learnt from the amazing Dr Tom Barrett that there are two realities about fear: the fear of growing, and the fear of not growing.

In the context of following your dreams in the form of a side project or a business, the fear of growing may involve your fear of being laughed at; being taken seriously; knowing what to say or how to answer questions. All equally cringeworthy (!) but all surmountable obstacles by simply learning and practising new skills.

The fear of not growing however is far worse. It may mean that you will always have more month than money; you remain unfulfilled in a job that you dislike and is draining your passion for life; you’re not ready for retirement; and your dreams are never ever realised. The fear of not growing sounds far worse to me: what do you think?

So if one of the main reasons why you are not taking that first step to change your life is that you just don’t believe you can, perhaps you’d like to start growing your belief in you today?

 

The Love Of A Leading Learner

imageYesterday I heard a wise man say, ‘ Being a great teacher is about being a great learner…’ and it got me thinking. Are we more concerned about the leading than we are about the learning? The path of personal development can be exciting and sometimes even exhilarating, but it can also be tiresome, painful and stagnant if you have a negative outlook and focus on the things you are yet to master and perfect. What is it about those people you admire and look up to, that make you want to follow them, or be a part of what they are about? I seem to be attracted to people who have had an interesting journey in life, which resonates with me and the change of direction that I have experienced in the last few years. imageWould I be as interested if they had not shared their struggles and challenges? If they had not been open about their passion and excitement for their current course in life? I don’t know. Perhaps not. But surely the act of leading is not just about the shiny transformed figure of excellence sharing wisdom and great advice. It must also be about taking others by the hand and showing them how to do things by actually doing it themselves. ‘Do as I do’ and not ‘Do as I say’.

So do you recognise this ‘Leading Learner’ when you look in the mirror? Are you taking the time you need to attend courses and training to improve yourself? Are you investing in yourself? Are you taking moments out of your day to be still, to still your mind and your body? Are you being open to new experiences and ways to improve? Can you really be bothered to push through those areas that you know don’t come easily to you, and can be painful when faced with parts of yourself that you just don’t really like? I’ll leave you with the words of another wise man, “Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better”- Jim Rohn.

Whose Rhythm Is It Anyway?

On my way home the other evening, I couldn’t resist taking a picture of these perfectly parked, perfectly straight and perfectly aligned ‘boris bikes’. I thought there was a real beauty in the symmetry and perspective, and I congratulated myself on what I thought was another great and quick addition to my ever-growing collection of photos on my Iphone ; a hobby of mine I suppose, just trying to capture the moment in pictures.

boris bikes lineHowever when I looked at the photo a few days later, I started to think about how so many of us want to be like these bikes, perfectly straight and perfectly aligned. Fitting in? Well, craving and seeking a sense of belonging is one thing, but learning to find your own rhythm in life, is something else. And I’m not talking about fitting in with others necessarily, well not today anyway. But more to do with finding your balance; your pace; your success habits; taking a tried and tested method and making it yours.

Putting this into an entrepreneurial context, say you are working with your highly successful mentor, and you are developing excellent habits by watching and duplicating. However, you have to find your own flow, and to do that you need to be clear on your personality, your style, your preferred language, all those things that make you uniquely you. What I have had in mind lately, is trying to find and maintain balance between the weekly plan of income-producing activity fitted into the nooks and crannies of my weekly life, and the sometimes compromising physical limitations of my body. What to do? I know that I am full of stubborn determination, which I believe is an asset in business, but perhaps less so when my health is at stake?

So, I am working on re-dressing the balance. As I get older, I understand more how the level of health and strength in my body is directly proportionate to my levels of happiness and joy and gratitude, and these core values are what keeps me in the right flow for my business and life. So, I am finding my own rhythm, and I know that this is important for my long-term success in business and in life. I am a work-in-progress, but a happy work-in-progress, enjoying my journey. Have YOU found your rhythm?

www.tessafyffe.com Tessa Fyffe set up Tessa Fyffe Global to help people set up their own part-time or full-time home-based business, so they can choose how to spend their time and truly feel better about their lives everyday. Looking for a positive change in your life? Contact Tessa here to schedule an information session without obligation, and find out if this is a fit for you  email@tessafyffe.com or text +44 7977 501212