So my friend Patricia who works her mad skills on my hair, tells me I have this little patch of hair on the back of my head where my hair doesn’t grow so much and it winds her up when she’s styling her masterpiece as it’s apparently a very disobedient patch of hair. Anyway, I’ve never bothered to inspect, so I thought I’d go in for a closer look. As I tried to angle my phone this way and that, I just caught myself in the moment… and I thought ‘Tessa, what are you doing man😜?’ and I just had this huge belly laugh take over and I couldn’t stop laughing at myself🤪 Who cares🤪😂😜right? I mean, we’ve all got funny bits, odd bits, extra bits, crinkled bits, swollen bits, bits that have a mind of their own, and bits that, let’s face it, you’ll never tell anyone about if you can get away with it 🤣😊 but so long as we learn to love all our bits as best we can, it becomes easier to love ourselves as a whole package deal. And don’t get me started on gratitudes ‘cos you know I won’t stop…. but really friends….. let’s be grateful for life each day, and maybe smile at all the little ‘bits’ that try to irritate us and steal our joy. What do you think?
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Yesterday I heard a wise man say, ‘ Being a great teacher is about being a great learner…’ and it got me thinking. Are we more concerned about the leading than we are about the learning? The path of personal development can be exciting and sometimes even exhilarating, but it can also be tiresome, painful and stagnant if you have a negative outlook and focus on the things you are yet to master and perfect. What is it about those people you admire and look up to, that make you want to follow them, or be a part of what they are about? I seem to be attracted to people who have had an interesting journey in life, which resonates with me and the change of direction that I have experienced in the last few years. 
Would I be as interested if they had not shared their struggles and challenges? If they had not been open about their passion and excitement for their current course in life? I don’t know. Perhaps not. But surely the act of leading is not just about the shiny transformed figure of excellence sharing wisdom and great advice. It must also be about taking others by the hand and showing them how to do things by actually doing it themselves. ‘Do as I do’ and not ‘Do as I say’.
However when I looked at the photo a few days later, I started to think about how so many of us want to be like these bikes, perfectly straight and perfectly aligned. Fitting in? Well, craving and seeking a sense of belonging is one thing, but learning to find your own rhythm in life, is something else. And I’m not talking about fitting in with others necessarily, well not today anyway. But more to do with finding your balance; your pace; your success habits; taking a tried and tested method and making it yours.
So the new year is here, the excitement is building and there are so many great adventures on the horizon! As you embrace this exciting newness, and feel full of hope, you start to feel differently, lighter somehow, with a bit of a hop, skip and jump built into your stride. This may not be very visible to others, however they can see your smile, your joy, your effervesence and your happiness. You are oozing and overflowing with hope and possibility, and it shows! Your inner glow is beaming out to the world and you are feeling EPIC……..but sometimes those closest to you don’t see what you see, and don’t feel what you feel and perhaps are a little ‘miffed’ that you seem so happy, especially when they are not. You start to feel a little jaded, and perhaps start to pretend, or suppress your excitement, letting it out again when no one is looking.