With millions of people around the world living on their own, you would be forgiven for thinking that there was nothing new about how to live alone. However everyone’s story is different. My story is different and I’m pretty sure yours is too.
You may not have chosen to live alone. You may have lived alone at different stages of your life, and now you’ve entered another stage in your life and you’re a different person, and the feeling of living alone seems new, all over again.
There is however a flip side to living alone, which many people and cultures seem to wrongly combine with the experience of living alone, and that is the experience of loneliness. I should say that you can still experience loneliness even when you don’t live alone, but that is a topic for another conversation. I think the cultural attachments and generational meanings to living alone tend to cloud the issue, unhelpfully.
In this video, you’ll learn about 5 ways to live alone under the lens of how to handle loneliness. It’s great to have a game plan and some tips up your sleeve, so you can enjoy happily living alone, rather than focusing on being lonely. You can change your perspective and embrace the adventure of living alone happily.
So let’s dive into the video content!
The first way is all about Going Deeper! What is your belief system about living alone? Where is your head at? This doesn’t have to be sad, or bad, or something to feel sorry about. Don’t be afraid to really go deeper in your relationship with yourself. Your most enduring relationship in your life is with yourself! When you live alone, you have this gift of an opportunity to really go deeper, really understand yourself as you are now, learn what you’re about and what’s important to you.
Next, Don’t Be Afraid! Fear can block your enjoyment of life. What you perceive to be fearful about living alone often isn’t true, but it is just stopping you from looking at this in a different way. What if you let go of the fear and then started to see living alone as an adventure? All the things you can enjoy; how you spend your time; all the freedoms you have; all the things you don’t have to apologise for; having the freedom to just ‘be’.
Thirdly, Separate the Living Alone Stuff From Your Relationship Status! All the rubbish, the negativity around being single as your relationship status, often clouds the separate issue of living alone. Separation of the two issues can bring some clarity and a much needed breather and a chance to exhale. That feeling of longing that may come up from time to time as a single person, according to the awesome Eckhart Tolle, is quite normal, and so long as you’re not clinging to that need to be half of that whole you desire, and you put your life on hold until.. until.. until….within that space, you can choose to live in a really happy way and start to enjoy where your life is, right now.
Fourthly, Create A Nourishing Living Space! Do you love your living space? Visually, what can you see – the colours, images, words, affirmations….. those things that are your style…..what about the smells that you love, like essential oils……and how about giving some thought to your sleeping space? There is a lot of insight to be gained from the practice of Feng Shui, which you may be surprised to benefit from.
Lastly, Creating & Planning Your Joy! Knowing, learning and doing those things that really bring you joy and make you smile. So if you know, head-to-toe, how amazing you feel after a long soak in a hot bubble bath with your favourite lavender essential oil and candlelight, then make that a regular event to schedule just for yourself.
For me, it’s been a mindset shift; if you believe that living alone is an enjoyable part of your life, and holds so many possibilities and adventures for you… then you can start to live that way.
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