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5 Benefits Of Daily Affirmations For Your Life

So if you’ve ever wondered what all the fuss is about affirmations and the benefits of daily affirmations, then this video is for you!

If you’re anything like me, you’re probably open to discovering all the tools that work for you in helping you live your best life, then you may want to tap into the importance of daily affirmations.

I am a big fan of Jack Canfield the author and teacher. His content resonates with me and the way he teaches you to excel in your life. I was reading one of his articles recently, well, re-reading it after a long time, and slightly different elements resonated with me this time; so I thought I’d share my highlights with you.

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So what is a daily affirmation? Well, it’s described as a clear positive statement designed to help you create change in yourself, basically, so you become the kind of person capable of accomplishing the goals that you want. You have to say it in the present tense and also say it as though it’s already achieved. I like that part which is quite a lot of fun!

Let’s dive in!

Combats negative self talk

So when you’re repeating your affirmations to yourself every day, it’s going to help you become much more aware of what’s going on in your thoughts and basically in yourself. you become better placed to swap out all your negative self talk with your new and nourishing positive affirmations. It’s easy to get rid of something if you have another thing to replace it with. What better than to focus on positive life-giving statements that are going to boost your self-worth.

Decreases stress

Jack explains that your negative thinking is a major source of stress! That certainly has been my experience! So when you learn to replace and swap out negative self talk with positive self affirmations. You start to focus on different things. You start to focus on all of your good character traits and that makes you feel better about yourself which can increase your focus on what you’re facing by keeping you calm and helping you to think more clearly.

Lessens anxiety

So replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, and then taking a step forward by imagining positive outcomes, has been shown to help people diagnosed with anxiety disorder, in helping them to get to grips with their negative emotions. The article noted that focus on a positive result helped you remain calm and better able to deal with stressful situations. Pretty powerful right?

Easing depression

It is often said that your 2000 year-old brain is designed to help you be on a constant lookout for signs of danger so you can react immediately, if needed, to any threats coming your way ( if a lion is running towards you, you immediately run in the opposite direction !!!) However, although today’s lifestyle is very different, we still have a pre-wired brain that is inclined to focus more on negatives rather than positives. People suffering from depression also tend to focus more on the negatives.

Positive affirmations can lead to ‘cognitive restructuring’ of the brain, so that your perception of yourself and the world around you becomes much more positive and optimistic. I have to say that this is completely true for me and my experience of using daily affirmations.

Improves your overall well-being

So by helping to reduce your stress, reduce your anxiety, your regular affirmation practice can continue to help your overall well-being. It can positively impact your sleep habits, your eating habits, your levels of motivation to exercise, and generally encourage you to do things that are going to better care for yourself on a higher level.

When you see yourself in this light as someone who is capable, someone who is able to achieve the success that you desire, as someone who has enhanced value and is beloved, then you’re really going to treat yourself with much more respect and elevate your overall well-being.

With all this good stuff available to you, I’d encourage you to use this as a tool for designing and creating your own wellness mindset. I’d love to hear how you get on.

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Seven Types of Goals In Life

Seven Types of Goals In Life

Sometimes the exercise of choosing which types of goals to set can be a bit mechanical and not aligned with who you are and what you’re about. Isn’t it better to have goals that are in tune with your meaning and essence and more aligned with your overall vision for your life?

Well in this video, you’ll learn the different types of goals in life that you could bring into your life. Let’s look at the categories of goals in life list according to your meaning and your relationships and your motivation. Let’s dive straight in.

I was inspired by a great article by a financial expert and blogger Anthony O’Neal. I loved his approach and how he shared it, and so I was inspired to share my takeaways and highlights with you.

What I like about this approach, before you even get to the seven categories, is that you start with an overall vision for yourself and your life, as the journey to fulfilling your purpose as a divine being, a child of God. Having a desire to be the person that God created you to be, for me, is a great position to take as your foundation, before you even start to choose and set the goals in your life.

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So when you’ve got your vision in place, everything else flows from that.

You start off with your vision for who you want to be. Link this with your purpose as a divine being in the world. The person who you think God wants you to be. Having that vision for yourself. What sort of person do you want to be. That is your starting point for your goals. Because everything then flows from that amazing vision of you.

Spiritual Goals

So he starts with Spiritual Goals. This resonates with me as the most important for me. Everything I do revolves around how I can develop relationship with God and being that best version of myself. So if your spiritual goal is to go deeper into your identity as a spiritual person, then an example of a goal may be how you carve out that time for yourself everyday for prayer and meditation, or reading the bible, or prayerful writing. Strengthening your connection to your Source. Have a think about what this might be for you.

Financial

Financial goals – really important as it is part of you being a responsible person and living your life fully, which choice and without burden. It could be about getting to grips with your debts and getting a plan in place. Maybe you don’t have any debts anymore and its about saving for a special event, your next lovely holiday or building up your investments.

Career

Career goals – if you’re an employed person you may be working towards a promotion, or making yourself more valuable, or trying a secondment to feed your need to try something different. Or maybe its about creating something for yourself like a business or a side hustle or a creative outlet for yourself. What could this mean for you? Remember, all the while you are relating this back to your overall vision for yourself.

Educational

Educational goals – becoming a life-long learner. Learning doesn’t stop when you leave school, college or uni. Brendon Burchard coaches on creating your own personal curriculum, what skillsets do you need to get to that next stepping stone or achievement for you? It could be about feeding your creativity with a new language or learning how to express yourself in a certain way. What could this be for you?

Fitness

Fitness goals – if you are physically able to exercise, what are you able to do that will energise you, help you to keep your heart healthy, and keep your systems, your joints and muscles in good working order. It doesn’t have to be about going to the gym. It could be about getting better organised about your fitness, like when you do it, as opposed to what you do. I learned to link my daily pilates rebounding machine exercises to a different existing part of my day that is non-negotiable and already a habit. That way, when I do the thing that’s already ingrained within me, I remember to add on my 10 minutes of rebounding.

Family

Family goals -where does family fit in to your life? Perhaps you’d like to have more family time but there always seems to be other stuff getting in the way? It may help to create a goal around this so that it becomes a priority. Keeping up to date with adult siblings with a weekly phone call, or a monthly catch up? Scheduling some activities together, or planning when you’re taking those journeys to visit family who live far away? What might this mean for you?

Social

Social goals – this one is quite interesting. It is not necessarily about ‘doing’ more or going out more. Think about those relationships in your life that nourish you. That serve you in your life. Are they priorities for you? Could you do with reducing the impact of those relationships that do not enrich your life or bring you value or enjoyment in any way whatsoever? Could you learn to say ‘no’ a bit more to bring balance into your overly busy life? What could this mean for you?

I look forward to hearing how you get on.

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3 Mindset Tips On How To Manage Pain (Hidden Disabilities)

In this video, you’ll learn about 3 mindset tips (also practical tips) to help you, when you are experiencing serious or chronic pain, perhaps as part of your hidden disability. Millions of people just like me, all around the world, have a hidden disability where one of the symptoms involves experiencing varying levels of pain and so finding ways to manage pain, or tips on how to manage pain, are so important for your lived experience and journey of life.

So let’s dive straight in. I explain a bit about how my hidden disability manifests itself in my body and in my everyday to give you some context.

First up – Lose the Warrior !

A lot of people have this attitude towards pain, where you’re in fighter mode, like you have declared a war on your pain. And your language changes and your mindset reflects this too. I used to feel that way as I thought it was the only way to get through my agony. However, I have since found that this consumes so much of my energy and actually can work against me and become counter productive.

So I moved from that to trying to view the pain episode and embracing it as a part of my journey and relationship with pain. This involved having a real acceptance, in the moment, in that moment of pain, almost like a letting go. Almost like I’m distancing myself a little bit. I know some people are programmed to fight against the word ‘acceptance’ or ‘surrender’, but I have found that there is a real strength in that.

Next – Focus on getting over the bridge!

Focussing on moving to the next point. Maybe if pain is a regular part of your life as part of your HD, you will know that there are times when the pain is SO severe. And rather than focusing on the slightly longer term things (like will I have to take time off work? will I need to go into hospital? what will I do with all the food I just bought in the fridge?),

just focus on the next moment thing (okay I’ve just taken some strong pain relief which should kick in in about 20 mins, let me focus on my deep breathing and try to calm down for the next 10 mins and reassess). And ONLY focussing on that. Condensing your focus within the pain just on the next moment. Getting over to that next point, over the bridge.

Lastly – Single person Ninja Strategies! Time to get smart!

Maybe you’re like me and millions globally who live alone. If you have a HD and have a long-term relationship with pain and have to manage your pain, then you do need some ninja strategies, to make this whole process as simplified and empowering as possible for you. What do I mean by that? Well we’ll need a bit of planning, a bit of preparation.

Knowing at what point is the final point where I absolutely will need to get help, call an ambulance etc. Also, being quite organised in what you’re going to need and when. So where is your key room at home, where you know that if you’re going into a painful episode, that is your go-to place, because that is where you have all your stuff within easy reach.

Where you’ve got extra blankets, access to your water bottle, your tv remote for those comedies to help you get through your painful episode, where your phone is fully charged, easy access to the toilet an/or kitchen for when your pain hits a plateau and you can finally stand upright and hobble about – whatever you need!

Also planning your hospital bag ready to go, should the worst happen and your home pain management can’t cut it in this instance because the pain has spiked and suddenly it has become an emergency.

It really is about a marathon, rather than a sprint! So the thing is to help yourself get through this time, as tomorrow is another day with more life to enjoy.

This is just a little dip into the pain management conversation. More to follow. I’d love to hear from you if you have a hidden disability and/or have other strategies that you use.

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Your Life Now Does Not Limit Your Future Self

Your Life Now Does Not Limit Your Future Self

So you wake up one morning, and you look at your life, and you feel weary …..and you sigh and think, ‘the vision I have for myself and my life feels like its so far away from where I’m at right now……am I just kidding myself..?”. Does this sound familiar?

Well my friend you’re really not alone in thinking this way, from time to time. This video is for you!

The trick is to recognise when you have these feelings and thoughts, and catch them before they do any lasting damage, and then change how you feel. But how?

I am a huge fan of the author and success coach Brendon Burchard. He teaches and empowers you in a way that truly resonates with me, and he brings such value to the world. If you’ve never heard of him, please please Google him and learn more. Well, one of his teachings inspired this video, so let’s dive in.

Let’s talk about how we can get so caught up in the stuff of life, often its the stuff that is your ‘busy work’ not your ‘passion work’ as Brendon describes, and this can weigh heavily on us. You know how disheartening it can be when you feel like there is no time to do what you really want to do….. and how can you move forward in the direction of your dreams?

What about when people like your family and friends take a view of what you say you’re going to do and say ‘you can never do that’, or worse, give you that annoying smirk smile that says ‘yeah right!’ and it just gets under your skin, particularly on those days when you’re not feeling as mentally strong as you usually do. People say things that are, in my words, a lot of nonsense, and it is stuff that is usually based on their own fears and certainly not something you should factor into your decision-making.

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What about, “You’re stupid for thinking that that would ever happen!”. Yep, that’s another one we love to hate. In the video I talk about how to take care not to share your innermost goals and dreams with just anyone. Something I have learnt first-hand over the years!

In the video I also talk about the importance of continuously believing in yourself, pushing past the struggle to feed your belief in yourself and I share an example of how I have done this in the past. And 1 more super important ninja step which you need to take!

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Many people ask me to share what health, wellness and beauty products I use. Instead of listing out each item individually here on the blog, I made a list of my Top 20 favourites, the ones I personally love and use here linktr.ee/tessafyffe