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5 Top Mindset Shifts For A Fulfilling Life

If someone told you that a shift in your perspective could improve your lived experience with your hidden disability, would you want to know more?

Well my friend, then this is for you!

Your mind is so powerful. It’s where it all happens. But somewhere along the path of life, we pick up this faulty, unhelpful conditioning and sometimes it sticks. And we start to believe it. And you start to think that this ‘fake news’ is really true. And you start to bend your life to fit into this belief.

If like me, you’re living with a hidden disability, there’s an even stronger need to fortify your mind so that it better serves you and supports you to be your best version of You! There’s just no space for unhelpful belief systems. The risk is too great!

Though there are many mindset shifts worthy of the spotlight and further consideration, let’s dive into these 5 here, as they also resonate with me and can bring about big changes from such comparatively small shifts.

Are you with me? Let’s do this.

Mindset Shift #1. From Limitation To POSSIBILITY

With a hidden disability, the message in the world is often one of limitation. The culture can make you think and feel that you are somehow ‘less than’. What’s that all about? Then you start to believe it to be true, and suddenly your mindset is all about limitation.

Well I would encourage you to shift that to possibility! Infinite possibilities no less! You may have become used to a low ceiling over your life. Well, in fact, there is NO ceiling!!

How about you start to view your challenges as opportunities for growth instead? Expanding your idea of what could be possible, rather than a starting point of what you think you can’t do?

Your potential to achieve greatness is HUGE! It’s about creating the space to think about your potential and allowing it to take seed in your mind, and then you can start to really believe it.

Mindset Shift #2. From Self-doubt To SELF-BELIEF

Ooooh I love this one, and its been huge for me. Cultivating a strong belief in your own abilities and potential. This is so important. You’ve gotta believe in yourself. You’ve gotta be your own #1 cheerleader. Your biggest fan. It’s like a self-belief muscle that needs to be nurtured and flexed and built and exercised so that it gets stronger and stronger.

Perhaps there is scope for you to develop and practice techniques that will help you build more self-confidence and more resilience. Trusting yourself more and actually telling yourself that. Out loud if you need to. For me, self-confidence grows from a place of knowing yourself more and better, getting clear on what I am about and why, loving myself in my skin (lumps, bumps and all) and moving forward in quiet contentment. This leads on to building resilience, because you keep moving forward. Keep moving forward. Keep moving forward.

Mindset Shift #3. From Isolation To CONNECTION

Now for me, living with a hidden disability has made me pretty familiar with isolation. It comes in all forms and shapes and colours. You can sometimes be with someone in a relationship and still have a dominant feeling of isolation. However, isolation isn’t all bad, and depending on what we’re talking about, can be quite enjoyable. But in the context a mindset shift that could positively impact your enjoyment of life with your hidden disability, there is real value in building your own supportive connections and community.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be a community of thousands, or hundreds. This is about connecting with others who are on a similar journey to you. Those people you connect with who are on your wavelength. It might be that you’re a positive person, but your loved ones and immediate circle are negative by default. They may not be bad people, but they may have picked up a negative mindset that just isn’t healthy for you to be around. You can choose to connect with other people who have a similar outlook, a similar energy, to you.

Mindset Shift #4. From Fear To COURAGE

Fear is like this pool of quicksand that keeps your feet glued to the spot, without attempting to move or change anything in your life. Living with your hidden disability may bring up a whole other category of fears: the fear of starting a new recommended treatment, the fear of starting a family, the fear of dying too soon, the fear of sharing the ‘secret’ of your hidden disability with someone you’ve just started dating……….the list goes on. Living from a place of fear holds you back.

Often, on the other side of that fear is your path to achieving personal growth. After all, courage is not the absence of fear. It’s about feeling the fear, but moving forward anyway.

Being open to strategies to help you step out of your comfort zone could be a great tool here. Embracing new experiences is often a gentle way to get yourself more used to that feeling of being uncomfortable. I always love it when Tony Robbins does his teaching on ‘getting comfortable with being uncomfortable’. Have you listened to that one before? So powerful. Because it is so true. When you can get out of your own way, and gently push yourself out of that ‘comfort zone’, and you do the thing, and the world doesn’t end, then you think ‘okay, that wasn’t so bad. What’s next?’.

Each time gets easier. And you’re building that courageous muscle. 6, 12 months from now, you may not be able to recognise yourself!

Mindset Shift #5. From Reaction To INTENTION

Hmmmm this one is so good and so powerful! Giving yourself permission to move away from living in this place of reaction. Living your life constantly reacting to the circumstances around you. Constantly ‘fire-fighting’ the emergent dramas that keep coming up. Living from one medical appointment to another. Living from one media or news headline to another. Stacking these media headlines of doom into your daily rhythm. Living from one family drama to another. Getting pulled into other people’s ’emergencies’ and latest gossip.

You’re knocking out dramas like you’re knocking baseballs out of the park. Staying in your world on your path feels like an intense workout on your abs as you try to keep your balance and your body upright.

How about practising living from a place of purpose and intention? Rather than reacting to circumstances? When you have a strong mindful and present connection to what you’re about, what’s important to you, what you want to achieve, what you need to get done………. it starts to feel like a strong magnet that’s pulling you towards it. you simply have to head in that direction. Anything that takes you away from that direction, is just not worth your time.

How can you get clarity on your clear goals or clear intentions? It can be quite powerful when you align your actions with your personal values. It can really help to keep you more purposeful and intentional. Maybe one of your important values is having peace in your life. Perhaps you’ve learnt the hard way that a lack of peace in your life aggravates your hidden disability. You’ve promised yourself that you’ll do more and more to maintain peace in your life. Pretty soon, your internal satnav gets locked into that direction. Anything that comes up that ‘steals’ your peace, you’re just not interested in, and it has less and less power over you.

If any of these resonate with you, I encourage you to implement these mindset shifts and continue to embrace your journey to self-improvement and a fulfilling life.

I look forward to hearing how you get on.

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Who Else Wants To Discover Your Unique Gifts? 5 Ways

How important is it to know your unique gifts? You can grow into your authentic self better. You can know yourself better. You can enjoy more fulfilment and meaning in embracing these special parts of yourself. They are part of what makes you YOU.

Of course there is another element to this. Because its not just about you my friend. Knowing and nurturing your unique gifts can lead to you being better able to serve others. To help others. Perhaps even by using your unique gifts to help others discover THEIR gifts.

The ripple effects of you doing this inner work could really be significant…….

Not to mention that if you have a truer sense of who you are, and how you can help people, it leads to and amplifies your own personal happiness! And who doesn’t want to cultivate more happiness?

So I’d like to share 5 Ways, or 5 Stepping Stones to get you closer to that discovery.

Are you with me? Let’s do this!

1.Time To Reflect on & Review Your Passions and Interests

It is really insightful when you allow yourself the space and time to reflect on what you’re truly passionate about. What do you like? What do you love? What lights you up? What is that fire in your heart? What activities make you lose track of time? Sometimes, it helps to ask the opposite question too : what do you dislike? What gets under you skin? What makes you think that you have to respond? Or do something about?

Sometimes its refreshing to take a step back and consider what you loved doing when you were younger. When you were a child? Do you have photographs of things you always seemed to prefer doing when you were a child? Really allow yourself to search the recesses of your mind and heart. I remember back when I had to decide on what to study at university. With my Dad giving strong support and encouragement to a Law degree and legal career, it was my first choice. But, I had a real interest in Psychology and positivity, and I loved creating things with my hands using paint, or coloured pencils or pastels, and designing spaces. And I enjoyed writing, doodling, sketching…. Hmmmm.

2.Paying Attention To The Feedback You Get From Others

It can be interesting to consider what those who know you say about your strengths. Or say about your character or your personality. Why not ask those around you what they believe are your strengths? Not everyone in your life is necessarily the right person to ask………..unfortunately some people just want to pull you down to join them in their preferred pit of miserable-living. Especially when you’re trying to do something to better yourself or improve yourself. So think carefully about who you ask. Those who know you and what you’re about. Those who want good things for you. Those who care.

It can also be quite unexpectedly revealing, when you listen carefully to the compliments or the positive feedback you receive from people in general. And not necessarily those in your inner circle. You might actually start to notice a pattern or some repetition in specific qualities in you that people appreciate enough to make a comment about. Make a note of it. Write it down. Pay more attention to what you hear. It may resonate with things you had already identified about yourself or that come up in #3 below. It may serve as corroboration about what you’re doing. It may be completely out of the blue. All good intel.

3. Identify Your Unique Skills & Talents

Okay my friend. Time to do some work. Make a list of all that skills that come naturally to you. Sure, it could relate to your job, or have nothing to do with it. It could relate to you as a person, as a parent, as a woman, as a man, in your dealings with people. Maybe you have an affinity for numbers. Maybe you can transform into the world’s best Santa Claus! Maybe its to do with your physicality, or maybe its to do with your mind. It may be an obscure skill. You may think its a more common skill. The point is, all of this is unique to you. And as there is only one you, and you only express yourself as you, then every skill you identify is valid and important. And don’t forget a talent you may have or a way of doing something which you have noticed about yourself.

Then go back to the passions and interests you considered at #1 above, and have fun seeing where there may be connections or where some of them align. You’re looking for patterns or combinations that catch your eye. And nothing is off limits. If you were in charge of creating new and different ice cream flavours, you wouldn’t hold back right? There is something for everyone!

4. Be on The Look-Out & Explore New Experiences

You are on a journey of adventure otherwise known as your life. You are constantly changing and your lived experience changes. Cultivate that openness mindset to try new activities which may help you uncover your hidden talents. Sometimes a flicker of an interest in something, even when you have no idea where it came from, can lead to something else entirely!

Remember that a gentle regular push against the temporary wall of the room known as your ‘comfort zone’, is part of your job description in your journey of adventure. Reminding yourself that this is the area of growth. And if we’re not growing, like all of nature, then we’re dying. You can do this.

5. Be Intentional & Practice Self-Reflection and Meditation

Some of the best ways to reconnect with yourself and get into your innermost heart and mind, include journalling and meditation. Blocking out the noise and distraction and just being with yourself and letting all your thoughts and feelings and observations just flow out on the page. Writing it out. This has helped me so much to get better connected with me . It would be great if this could help you too. You can direct your journalling exercise specifically on this area and look at the points we’ve discussed above. Bring all this into your journalling. Similarly with meditation. Some people prefer mindfulness. Having quiet time where your focus is purely on your breathing and a mantra and your eyes are closed. Even if its just for 10 minutes at a time. you may be surprised what insights come up to the surface afterwards. Remember to capture any insights on paper, to look over later.

Start to think about those times or moments in your life when you felt full of vitality and aliveness. When you felt most fulfilled. Ponder over them. Sit with them. These too can be invaluable in pointing out to you what you should be doing more of. What you should be leaning in to. Again, look out for any patterns that may pop up.

These exercises are precious and may really surprise you.

I look forward to hearing how you get on.

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What Everyone Ought To Know About Celery Juice? How To

Why is Celery Juice, a herbal extract, on another level with unique healing properties? Keep reading to find out! Drinking 16 ounces of fresh celery juice daily on an empty stomach? Epic benefits my friend!

No not eating celery sticks, celery leaf, celery seeds or celery powder. None of this comes close to the benefits of drinking 16 ounces of fresh celery juice daily on an empty stomach.

I’ve been drinking celery juice now since 2021. I was introduced to the work and teaching of Anthony William, the originator of the global celery movement and New York Times Bestselling Author of several books including ‘Celery Juice: The Most Powerful Medicine Our Time Healing Millions Worldwide’. I was blown away by how this humble celery, when juiced, had transformed the health of so many people.

Having been born with and living with a hidden disability, and having a keen interest in specific areas of health, I did my due diligence and decided that I had to start getting celery juice into my body. I have had amazing results and continue to drink celery juice daily on an empty stomach, though I’ve increased from 500mls (16 oz) to approx 800mls or so, give or take the size of the bunches of organic celery I buy.

This post is about highlighting some of the main benefits from drinking celery juice, as prescribed in the Medical Medium protocol, from the great book mentioned above ‘Celery Juice’. I have selected 10 of my favourite benefits:

1. Neutralise Toxins e.g Heavy Metal Toxins

So important. And specifically, heavy metal toxins like copper, mercury, aluminium. Celery Juice goes into the bloodstream, and neutralises toxins. Excellent!

2. Fights Off Unwanted Bacterial, Fungal, Viral

Those Sodium Cluster Salts (this undiscovered powerhouse ingredient according to MM which does so much – and its not like salt that you cook with) in Celery Juice are so powerful. One of the many things it does is enable Celery Juice to actually kill off bacteria fungus and viruses.

3. Supports The Liver In Producing Bile

Celery Juice supports your liver in producing bile. Hard-working livers that deserve awards!

4. Ultimate Electrolyte Source – Complete & Active

Yes, our bodies run on electricity. We need electrolytes to communicate between the cells. This is the ultimate complete and active source of electrolytes.

5. Unique Digestive Enzymes

Now these aren’t your standard enzymes that digest food in the digestive tract. They these enzymes revitalise other existing enzymes in the body. I think of them as next-level enzymes!

6. Antioxidants

Specific antioxidant function in tackling the fatty deposits around heavy metal toxins. It’s very important work.

7. Vitamin C Superb – No Methylation Process Needed

This has a more remarkable source of Vitamin C, than your broccoli, your tomatoes and even than your orange! The source of Vitamin C we’re talking about here, is already ready for the body to absorb. It doesn’t need to go through the process of methylation in the liver, that usually changes it into the type of Vitamin C that your body can readily absorb- it’s already in that desired absorbable format. Very exciting.

8. Significant Anti-Inflammatory Properties

Let me say that again. Celery Juice has significant anti-inflammatory properties.

9. Strongly Alkaline

Alkalinity is great. You want to have more of an alkaline internal environment.

10. Helps Clear Up Skin Problems

Boom! This is huge! This alone is a reason to start drinking Celery Juice.

Well, I’ll stop there.

If you want to dig deeper, check out the Celery Juice book by MM and also the website.

I will always be drinking Celery Juice. It has helped my health so much.

Can you imagine what it could do for you?

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How To Authentically Run Your Own Race? Eyes Straight

I’ve often heard it said at my yoga classes that it’s all about you on your mat. It’s not about anyone else, or looking to see what others are doing, you just focus on being on your mat and you do what your body is able to do, on that particular occasion.

I’ve always liked that. And I think there are parallels for how we live our lives.

We do sometimes, don’t we, focus a little too much on what other people are doing. We see them achieving their successes. We look at them, then we look at ourselves. We look at them again, then we look at ourselves. And then what happens? We start to compare. And then certain thoughts start to emerge, along the lines of, ‘She’s doing this now but what am I doing?’, or , ‘He’s moving on to that while I’m still here!’.

Ooooh this is a slippery slope my friend and not at all what I want for you. It’s easy to fall into that trap. It can be part of the human condition and it can happen to us all. But please please please, it is so destructive and it’s kinda toxic. I would much rather you put your energies into feeling grateful for where you are, feeling excited for where you are headed, and the person that you are becoming and just keep moving forward.

So let’s look at five stepping stones to help you authentically run your own race.

Keep Connecting With Your True Self

By strengthening that connection with yourself – who you are, what you’re about, what your goals are and why you are doing what you’re doing – it becomes easier to be stronger and more courageous. When that connection gets broken or weakened, by challenges or distractions or temporarily forgetting that you too can be excited for and about your life, we become more vulnerable to those thoughts of comparison. Those negative thoughts or internal voices telling us, essentially, that we’re good enough, but by comparison, others are.

I really believe that you need to keep on falling back in love with yourself, and what you’re about, and what you have to offer. We can’t just say one day, ‘wow, I’m all connected with myself. Now I’m all set.’ It’s not once and you’re done. No. This is a continuous process. Getting to know your true, authentic self, and then loving what you find. Liking yourself. Sure that process may involve finding parts of you that you’d like to improve or make better. That’s fine. That’s all part of it. You can still love the progress you are making, no matter how small. You can still love the efforts you are making and liking what is in your heart.

When you feel that you’re becoming more distant from your true self, then its time to reconnect and recalibrate.

Measure Your Progress. Measure Your Efforts.

It is easy to focus only on the big wins and the big successes. But that is only a small part of the story. The fuller story is in the journey it takes to get to the bigger milestones. The small daily steps. The falling down. The getting up again. The dragging yourself, finally, into the quiet time ring-fenced for you to get some passion work done. The persistence in your heart and mind and spirit to keep going. The stuff that you do when no one is looking. The tears and self-doubt and the overcoming.

Yes, most of these moments are not very flashy or necessarily interesting, but they are important. Important for you. One of my life teachers, Tony Robbins, often says, ‘Progress equals Happiness’. My goodness, how true that is, right? When I get to a yoga class and I settle down onto my mat, I’m already so happy, even before I’ve done any of the postures. Because I got myself there. I made the decision. I carved out the time. I committed to moving forward with my body’s health and fitness. I made PROGRESS.

The path to the big milestones is paved by the little pebbles of progress.

Take Regular & Honest Reviews of Where You Are Against Where You Want To Be

Now it is important to note that if you don’t honestly review where you’re at, it’s unlikely that you will make the kind of progress that you deserve. Be prepared to make regular recommitments to yourself of where it is you want to be and how you’re going to get there. Get it all out of your head and write it down on paper. It is quite powerful to see it all out there in black and white. Reconnect with why you want this goal or new practice or habit, and what it means for you. Refresh yourself in the meaning behind what it is you want to do. Then compare that to where you are now. Take another honest look with fresh eyes at what you need to do to close that gap. What are the steps you need to take to get there?

Now go do them.

Link to YouTube video – https://youtu.be/RRB9SJlAio0?si=42WsvDy0_AiWNkxL

Celebrate Others. There is more than enough for everybody!

When you do happen to see what someone else is doing, and you’re so impressed with how well they’ve conducted themselves or with what they have achieved, then celebrate them! It is lovely and healthy to celebrate another’s success. It doesn’t have to end in the direction of comparison. You can choose NOT to go down that path. There is more than enough success and celebration and abundance in this world for EVERYBODY! Why shouldn’t you be happy for them? It’s okay to let their success inspire you in a positive way to keep moving forward on YOUR path, with YOUR goals and what’s important to YOU. This is YOUR journey, and no one else’s.

But it feels good to celebrate and encourage others on THEIR journey.

Give thanks for where you are and how far you’ve come

BE GRATEFUL! GRATITUDE! Well done! Look at how far you’ve come compared to where you were before? Where you were 1 year ago? 5 years ago? 10 years ago? Even just 3 months ago? You are focussed on your race, right? This is about you. Celebrate that you’re even on this journey! That you’re here today, breathing in air, and are privileged to even be making decisions like these about what to do with your life and who you want to become, and how you want to add value in the world.

So my friend, it doesn’t matter how completely absorbing or inspiring that drama you loved on Netflix was, its not the real story. The real story is about you and what you’re about and how you want to be in this world.

I’m excited to hear how you get on.

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What Everybody Ought To Know About Drinking Lemon Water

What’s one small but mighty change you can make to your daily nutrition? It’s Lemon Water. Or more precisely, one lemon squeezed into 1 litre of your best quality purified water.

The humble lemon that is so often overlooked or misunderstood.

I was taught this several years ago and once I did my due diligence and started this practice for myself, I started to understand just how effective and impactful this can be for your health and daily nutritional habits.

I enjoy the teachings of Anthony William, the ‘Medical Medium’, the multiple New York Times Best Selling Author, and resonate with his mission to help millions of people heal themselves through food and protocols. The Lemon Water protocol is simple and oh so effective and this is what you ought to know about making this one of your daily habits.

Rather than me ramble on in my excitement, I’ve revisited one of my favourite Medical Medium videos and articles, and taken my favourite highlights and included them below for you.

Lemon water hydrates, purifies and revitalises your body

Did you know that water coming straight from the tap or a bottle has lost its vitality and innate living structure? So by adding freshly squeezed lemon juice to your water, it brings it back to life. Then it can do its job more effectively, getting into your tissues and cells and carrying essential nutrients around the body.

Lemon water is a good source of vitamins C and B and minerals such as calcium and magnesium

Such a small fruit packs a punch and this reason alone is enough to have one or more a day.

Lemon water is excellent for weight loss, the immune system, alkalising the body, controlling high blood pressure, anti-aging, detoxification, purifying the blood and regulating body temperature

Now I don’t know which of these might resonate with you, or maybe they all do. I have an interest in strengthening and boosting my immune system because of my hidden disability, but I also recognise the specific importance for me of making my internal body more alkaline, regularly removing toxins and purifying the blood. Everything else is just pure bonus!

Lemon water is beneficial for the digestive tract

It can help to relieve constipation, nausea and parasites.

Lemon water is good for the cardiovascular and muscular system

It’s a great drink for before and after exercise.

Lemon water helps break up sediment and stones in the gallbladder

This in turn encourages bile production in the liver to increase, hydrochloric acid levels in the gut to rise, and the reductions of bad acids that cause acid reflux.

Okay, so now you’ve heard the highlights of Medical Medium teaching on some benefits of lemon water, is it time you make some for yourself?

How do you make lemon water?

As I said at the start, its basically one lemon (or you can start with a half) freshly squeezed into 1 litre (or you can start with 500ml) of your best quality purified water. No additions. No mixing with other fruits. Nothing. Simple. It is great if you have it first thing in the morning on an empty stomach. Leave it 20 – 30 mins before having anything afterwards, including your Celery Juice, if you drink it like me.

For my inquisitive friends who (like me) prefer a visual to be absolutely sure, here is a video I made earlier!

So my friend, I invite you to take up this lemon water practice. This has done wonders for me, for years! Wouldn’t it be great if it helps you too?

I look forward to hearing how you get on.

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Thank You Old Year. Hello New Year. Be Intentional.

The start of a new year. I can’t remember a new year where I didn’t feel excited. Like there was some freshness in the air. A chance to hit the reset button of my life, or at least the reset button of my feelings and emotions. A childlike feeling of excitement that momentarily forgets about the challenges or difficulties of the outgoing season. Something curious about the fact that everyone in this massive world community is pondering over this transition into a new year, all at around the same time, and being a part of that. A part of something so much bigger than ourselves. All of this creates a build up and so many different emotions.

Well, how do you approach this special transition? Do you talk about resolutions or goals? Do you use the language of becoming new or renewed? Do you dread this time of the year and simply ‘opt-out’? Perhaps you make promises to yourself about changes you would like to make in your life? Perhaps your excitement transitions into guilt 8 weeks later when you realise your life hasn’t really begun to change in the way you intended?

Hmmmmm……….

I’ll share what I tend to do. Feel free to try it out if you like the sound of it.

Look over your shoulder and smile

Well, I like to start with looking back. Looking back at the old outgoing year. I like to see on paper what my highlights were and what I enjoyed about the year. I also like to see what big events or challenges or hurdles I had to overcome. Successfully or not so successfully, and just acknowledge them, good or bad. An exciting trip, an admission to hospital, a friendship that withered away. A delicious meal, designing my book cover, the feelings of bodily peace. The times you caught a glimpse of your true authentic character unfiltered, and the laughter you had from a nourishing friendship.

I jot these down with pencil on paper, preferably in little circles or squiggly shapes like clouds, and just get it all down, out of my head. This is fun, and the larger the piece of paper the better. I do like using my journal, but I run out of space so I prefer to use a larger sketch type pad that I keep tucked away for big creative moments like this.

Or if you’re not much of a writer, you could try going for a walk while recording yourself on your phone, saying all your highlights out loud. I did both this year and it was really fun, especially as my thoughts were rolling out faster than I could write! So later on when writing, I could use the audio to check I hadn’t forgotten anything.

Give space for acknowledgement

Then when you’re quite done giving acknowledgement to the outgoing year, start the process again for what you would like to see happen in your life for the new year.

Hello new year! What’s occurring?

This should be fun! Remember, if there are things you are afraid to say because you think there’s no point in wishing for it, then write it down! Don’t hold back. Sometimes it takes writing something down to bring it to life, and really admit it to yourself. Because I’ve done this a few times, I now know that you want to be as specific as you can. Also give things a deadline, like a date for when you want something to happen or to start taking shape.

This starts to take you into the territory of writing goals, which isn’t really what this post is about, so more on that another time. But this process is all about bringing clarity and focus and deliberate intention to what is important for your life. It’s about taking the time to give breathing space to your thoughts and to what’s in your heart. To really bring it to life and help you make real authentic decisions about what direction to take next, to get to where you would really like to be.

I’d love to hear how you get on.

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