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How To Build Self Confidence – 7 Ways

Do you say to yourself, ‘I wish I had a bit more confidence’, ‘I feel as though I could express myself better if I knew how’, or ‘I just don’t feel confident enough to do xyz’?

Well, you’re not alone! In this video, you’ll learn about helpful ways on how to build self confidence, which is a challenge for so many people. The good news is that this is a skill that can be learnt and practised! So you can learn how to increase your confidence levels.

So let’s have a look at how we can get you started on the road to building self confidence.

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Identify where your lack of self confidence is coming from. This first step will help you focus on the most important area(s) to work on, and also you’ll be able to replace that problem area with more positive thoughts and reinforcement. Take a little bit of time and honesty to get to the root problem if you can. Journalling can be a great way to get to the nub of this.
Aligning with your true self and true desires. We all have ideas of who we should be, what we should look life, how we should sound etc and letting go of that picture to an extent and focusing on who you are, just as you are. Your authentic self.
Emotions are temporary and don’t last – the fearful feeling that you have and you get, it will have its peak and then run its course. It doesn’t last. So as the famous book says ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. It will get easier. Please don’t let your fear stop you from stepping into your light.
Cultivating self compassion – often we are so hard on ourselves, I know I am. At times we need to tune into that beautiful inner voice of compassion for ourselves, and allow ourselves to grow and build confidence. So be forgiving and congratulate yourself for taking steps forward, no matter how small.
Standing up to your own inner critic – Oh my goodness, isn’t the inner voice responsible for so many naughty things! Knowing how to control it – its not that you’ll stop the thoughts, but its like what Eckhart Tolle says about acknowledging that inner voice, and saying okay I see you, I hear you, I’ll give you your 5 mins of fame, but then I’m going to squish you (my word)!
Taking a break from social media – I think this can be quite useful, as there is a tendency for us, at those times when we are feeling really low in confidence, and it could be just one post you see of someone else’s life, that could send you into a downward spiral or a place where you start to self sabotage and undermine your good work and progress.
What is within your sphere of influence? What are the things that you can do? As you are doing things that you directly control, you’re gonna start feeling more confident. And as you are building confidence, you are in fact building even more confidence!

I’m excited for you on your journey. I’d love to hear how you get on!

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5 Ways To Live Alone : How To Handle Loneliness

With millions of people around the world living on their own, you would be forgiven for thinking that there was nothing new about how to live alone. However everyone’s story is different. My story is different and I’m pretty sure yours is too.

You may not have chosen to live alone. You may have lived alone at different stages of your life, and now you’ve entered another stage in your life and you’re a different person, and the feeling of living alone seems new, all over again.

There is however a flip side to living alone, which many people and cultures seem to wrongly combine with the experience of living alone, and that is the experience of loneliness. I should say that you can still experience loneliness even when you don’t live alone, but that is a topic for another conversation. I think the cultural attachments and generational meanings to living alone tend to cloud the issue, unhelpfully.

In this video, you’ll learn about 5 ways to live alone under the lens of how to handle loneliness. It’s great to have a game plan and some tips up your sleeve, so you can enjoy happily living alone, rather than focusing on being lonely. You can change your perspective and embrace the adventure of living alone happily.

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So let’s dive into the video content!

The first way is all about Going Deeper! What is your belief system about living alone? Where is your head at? This doesn’t have to be sad, or bad, or something to feel sorry about. Don’t be afraid to really go deeper in your relationship with yourself. Your most enduring relationship in your life is with yourself! When you live alone, you have this gift of an opportunity to really go deeper, really understand yourself as you are now, learn what you’re about and what’s important to you.

Next, Don’t Be Afraid! Fear can block your enjoyment of life. What you perceive to be fearful about living alone often isn’t true, but it is just stopping you from looking at this in a different way. What if you let go of the fear and then started to see living alone as an adventure? All the things you can enjoy; how you spend your time; all the freedoms you have; all the things you don’t have to apologise for; having the freedom to just ‘be’.

Thirdly, Separate the Living Alone Stuff From Your Relationship Status! All the rubbish, the negativity around being single as your relationship status, often clouds the separate issue of living alone. Separation of the two issues can bring some clarity and a much needed breather and a chance to exhale. That feeling of longing that may come up from time to time as a single person, according to the awesome Eckhart Tolle, is quite normal, and so long as you’re not clinging to that need to be half of that whole you desire, and you put your life on hold until.. until.. until….within that space, you can choose to live in a really happy way and start to enjoy where your life is, right now.

Fourthly, Create A Nourishing Living Space! Do you love your living space? Visually, what can you see – the colours, images, words, affirmations….. those things that are your style…..what about the smells that you love, like essential oils……and how about giving some thought to your sleeping space? There is a lot of insight to be gained from the practice of Feng Shui, which you may be surprised to benefit from.

Lastly, Creating & Planning Your Joy! Knowing, learning and doing those things that really bring you joy and make you smile. So if you know, head-to-toe, how amazing you feel after a long soak in a hot bubble bath with your favourite lavender essential oil and candlelight, then make that a regular event to schedule just for yourself.

For me, it’s been a mindset shift; if you believe that living alone is an enjoyable part of your life, and holds so many possibilities and adventures for you… then you can start to live that way.

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How To Heal Mother Daughter Relationships – 4 Tips For Daughters

Some say that this is one of the more complex of family relationships, often plagued with layers of challenge, hurt, misunderstanding and conflict. We hear a lot about mothers and daughters being best friends, and sharing all aspects of each others lives in harmony, which is beautiful. How much do we hear about the flip-side to this dynamic, the not-so-pretty-to-look-at side of this important relationship?

Like many other women, this is a topic that resonates deeply with me and so I enjoy reading material on this. I came across an article recently that I find really helpful, and after digesting, I thought I’d share 3 highlights from it in this video. The fourth healing tip is my own, shared from my personal experience.

In this video you’ll learn about 4 healing tips on how to heal mother daughter relationships, as adult daughters. We talk a bit about the often painful road to healing yourself. A few ideas about how to perhaps put into motion a little bit of healing as an adult daughter with your mother.

The first tip is knowing that actually you are good enough. Really believing that you are good enough. Maybe you are full of admiration for your mother, maybe she has a strong personality, strong character or skills in a certain area, and you feel that you may not measure up to that. Creating a balance in this area which is often a source of conflict; accepting that you don’t have to validate yourself based upon the traits of your mother. This all leads to feelings of not being enough – which is a horrible weight to carry around. Please know that you are good enough!

Next, trying to understand and empathise with, your mother’s needs. Try to think about giving her grace to be where she is, in terms of her experiences in life.

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Next, avoiding blame! Ooh, don’t we all love to get into this one! It is so toxic. Where can we perhaps let go of that blame? Sometimes we blame ourselves for not doing enough, not being there, not earning enough, not having the ‘right’ husband, not having any husband, not being submissive enough, not having the ideal life that our mothers wanted for us…….the list goes on and on, and it’s so consuming and really unhealthy.

Lastly, looking at ways to redirect and retrain your subconscious mind. This is something I have worked through, listening to a whole series of neurological-blueprints, and it’s basically getting rid of that inner voice that has been established over time, that is in fact actually false and has created this untrue narrative in your life which does not serve you. You re-set your mind with good understandings and good internal beliefs that are serving you, and edifying you and the wonderful gifts and the wonderful person that you are.

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Your Life Now Does Not Limit Your Future Self

So you wake up one morning, and you look at your life, and you feel weary …..and you sigh and think, ‘the vision I have for myself and my life feels like its so far away from where I’m at right now……am I just kidding myself..?”. Does this sound familiar?

Well my friend you’re really not alone in thinking this way, from time to time. This video is for you!

The trick is to recognise when you have these feelings and thoughts, and catch them before they do any lasting damage, and then change how you feel. But how?

I am a huge fan of the author and success coach Brendon Burchard. He teaches and empowers you in a way that truly resonates with me, and he brings such value to the world. If you’ve never heard of him, please please Google him and learn more. Well, one of his teachings inspired this video, so let’s dive in.

Let’s talk about how we can get so caught up in the stuff of life, often its the stuff that is your ‘busy work’ not your ‘passion work’ as Brendon describes, and this can weigh heavily on us. You know how disheartening it can be when you feel like there is no time to do what you really want to do….. and how can you move forward in the direction of your dreams?

What about when people like your family and friends take a view of what you say you’re going to do and say ‘you can never do that’, or worse, give you that annoying smirk smile that says ‘yeah right!’ and it just gets under your skin, particularly on those days when you’re not feeling as mentally strong as you usually do. People say things that are, in my words, a lot of nonsense, and it is stuff that is usually based on their own fears and certainly not something you should factor into your decision-making.

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What about, “You’re stupid for thinking that that would ever happen!”. Yep, that’s another one we love to hate. In the video I talk about how to take care not to share your innermost goals and dreams with just anyone. Something I have learnt first-hand over the years!

In the video I also talk about the importance of continuously believing in yourself, pushing past the struggle to feed your belief in yourself and I share an example of how I have done this in the past. And 1 more super important ninja step which you need to take!

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Why We Need To Cleanse – 10 Reasons

How will a cleanse help you? Do you know why we need to cleanse? Once you understand what a powerful tool you have in your hands to restore, revitalise and refresh your wellbeing and wellness, then you’ll be as excited as I am about making a cleanse a routine part of your daily, weekly, monthly and yearly health habits of your life journey.

In this video, you’ll learn about 10 reasons why we need to cleanse and why you should cleanse your body internally. I share what I have experienced myself in my body and mind after doing a cleanse and detox from a plant-based perspective.

Here I explain why we need to cleanse with a plant-based cleanse:

1. Removing Toxins and link to Weight-loss

2. Increasing your Energy

3. Decreasing Inflammation in your body

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4. Improve your Digestion

5. Boosting your Immunity

6. Curb your cravings and nasty eating habits

7. Stabilising your mood and blood sugar levels

8. Your Skin is Clearer and Brighter

9. Improve Your Sleep Quality

10. Improve Your Focus, Effectiveness and Mental Function and Mindset

I’ve always found it interesting how we are quick to associate a cleanse with just weight loss, meanwhile you’re getting all these amazing benefits to your health, that the weight loss element just seems like a bonus! I encourage you to give some serious thought to how you can incorporate regular cleansing into your life……. can you really afford not to?

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